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Believe and You WILL Achieve: 1 Mom’s Guide to a Natural Childbirth



“Labor is not a medical emergency”, that’s what I kept telling myself before I gave birth.

It was a phrase my doula extended to me.

My pregnancy was not the easiest but my labor went more smoothly than I could have imagined.

Yes, I know some women’s pregnancies and labors are a medical emergency, and there’s nothing they could do to change that; but your mindset going into it does have an effect on how you perceive and handle it.

“Before my labor, I studied pregnancy and the process of labor extensively.

I read books and watched videos, but the most important thing I did was to prepare my mind.

I meditated every day and told myself that my labor would be easy and that my body was made to do this.

I wasn’t afraid.”


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“I really recommend reading the book Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth.”

“Like I mentioned, my pregnancy was a little rough…”

“Having a Doula gave me the extra support that I needed during my pregnancy.”   

“The day I went into labor I was excited and nervous.”

“I pretty much labored at home all day in bed, going in and out of sleep.”   

My labor went so fast that my midwife almost didn’t make it in time for me to push!  The nurses and the other doctor had never had a mother give birth in the all four’s position. They kept asking me to lie on my back but I didn’t want to.

“After my labor, though, most of the staff were very nice and accommodating. It was basically like having postpartum room service. It was great having the kind nurses assist me and pretty much cater to me after such a mind altering and exhausting experience.”

“I thought I was going to be at the hospital for hours and hours in labor but I wasn’t!

I feel like my preparation before hand And positive outlook on labor really played a part in this.”


“It was amazing having a Doula who had the same positive outlook on labor and delivery help me through it.”

My close friend Silvia was there for me throughout my entire pregnancy.  She also attended my labor.  She was very supportive and encouraging.  She also checked on me after I gave birth and is now the godmother of my son.

Another support person I had was my mom. I was nervous that she would freak out during my labor, since I wanted to go natural and since I didn’t know how much pain I would be in.  But she was very calm and helpful and she was so excited to meet her grandson! She has been very encouraging throughout this experience.

Within 30 minutes of pushing I had my sweet baby boy in my arms. And it was like none of it had ever happened. Yet, it was the most amazing experience of my life.

Candace Carter is a mom, an adolescent behavior coach, and a wardrobe stylist.  Follow her in Instagram and check out some of her work: @ccarterfashion

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